For my last post of 2011 I was contemplating a year-end wrap up, reflecting on my journey since starting with social and thanking all the people, past and present who have taken the time to grace this site.
Also, since social slows down over the holidays, it provided an opportunity to take care of some housekeeping items.
I do not actively track who follows me back on Twitter. There is probably a download you can use to see when someone leaves, but it’s not a measurement that really interests me. I am not looking to do any ‘exit’ interviews.
By chance, I went to a ‘friends’ Twitter profile and noticed I could not direct message them anymore, meaning they were no longer following me. That was surprising because they used to be pretty regular here. They have been absent lately, but I just thought my site and/or content was no longer compelling enough for them.
Yes, you have been fired
My day job is outside commercial insurance sales. I know it’s probably hard to believe, but yes, I have been fired before. And since I plan on hanging around at least another 15 or so years, I’m sure it will happen again.
‘They‘ say not to take it personally because it’s only business. That is not how I roll however; I do take it personally and always wonder what I could have done differently to prevent it.
Typically, you can look back and find parts of the ‘process’ you could have done better; deeper relationship with the owner instead of just the CFO, quantify your work and results better, etc; but once it’s done, it is best not to beat yourself up too much over it. At least in my world, it’s the nature of the beast.
Sometimes you still don’t see it coming
In the case of my ‘unfollower’, I did not see it coming. I considered us pretty good friends so was taken aback when it was discovered.
It is one thing to just ‘go away’ and no longer associate with someone, but to pro-actively quit following sends a pretty clear message, don’t you think? Ouch…
I do know the incident that triggered this reaction, but was just a bystander. Apparently it appeared I chose sides, which was certainly not my intent.
I certainly don’t want to see my friends leave; especially if it’s because of something boneheaded I did. I’m the go along, get along guy; I have no malice intent.
I’m disappointed it happened, but I don’t know what I would have done differently.
We all make our own choices
Yes, you are free to come and go and choose whoever you want to associate with in here. I have been fired before and know it will happen again. It still doesn’t make it any easier.
How many times have you ‘unfollowed’ someone because of some real or perceived slight? Did you feel vindicated? Did it really even matter?
What I am thankful for
I really do just try to be the best I can be. I’m nowhere near perfect, but hopefully, what you see is what you get and don’t think there is some other agenda going on.
I appreciate each and every one of you who takes the time to stop by and chat. That alone has been the most rewarding part of social and blogging to me.
We are never too old to live and learn, and suppose I will never reach the point where I can say ‘I have seen it all’; so it is always best to keep an open mind, do what you can do, and let the chips fall where they may.
As we move forward
Some prefer to view progress as a continual process and not use the measurement of a calendar year as a starting anew point. However, just because a calendar year lends itself to this purpose, and if you are looking to make change you have to start somewhere, so let’s just go out and have an awesome 2012, ok?
Since I’ve knowingly been fired once now (I’m sure there are others), it will no longer be post worthy so if you plan on ditching me, you are relatively safe at this point. I’m not whining as I know this happens in here, it just surprised me, that.is.all.
Thank you for your support; I sincerely mean it.
So long my friend, you will be missed.